“My partner calls it my ‘obsessions'”

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By John

“You know it’s the grandmothers who do that? » It is 6 p.m. sharp, in the middle of February. Etienne observes his companion, Aude (all our interlocutors requested anonymity), go around the apartment to close each shutter, as night falls. It seeks to preserve the heat without touching the thermostat. If it were up to him, he would have just operated the “+” of the radiator. This scene of daily life is a classic of a new kind of “mixed couple”, of which Etienne and Aude are part. Those who are out of step ecologically: one seeks to lower its carbon impact, the other less so.

The climatic subject makes the headlines and settles in parallel in the intimate sphere of the love duo: “Before, ecology was a questionable option that we could keep at a distance. Today, in the face of fires, droughts, epidemics… we inevitably feel existentially affected, and some make it a life ethic that it becomes difficult not to share with one’s spouse.begins David Faure, author of the article “For an ecological turning point in psychosociology”, published in New Journal of Psychosociology in 2022. Food, holidays, housing, travel, children, etc., there are few essential questions in the life of a couple that are not impacted by the environment and which are all areas in which we can act by modifying our habits. . When ecology nestles in the marital bed, small frictions are never far away.

If it is rare to be in a relationship with someone whose commitments are radically different from his, as for the political thing, there can be discrepancies, which evolve over time. Etienne has a “ecological awareness” which he has been nurturing for a few years, but his degree of involvement is not the same as that of Aude. When he meets this woman “very eco-friendly” in August 2022, he is struck by “a form of higher requirement in the application of certain principles”. On the eco-gesture front, Aude is unquestionably more “pointy” than him. She eats vegetarian, dresses exclusively at Emmaüs, prefers the train to the plane. He favors small shops made in France, consumes animal products, limits his air travel but does not hesitate. She is “a very precise sorter”when he recognizes that he could make an extra effort to put his waste in the right bin.