Dad Cecchettin and pain transformed into civil commitment


By John

The evil ones will have thought of yet another scoop Fabio Fazio, useful for riding the ratings. For the professional indignants it was an act of narcissism. But the presence of Gino Cecchettin at Che tempo che fa, appeared to us as the way in which a father sublimated a perennial pain over the death of his daughter and transformed it into civil commitmentso that it doesn’t have to happen to others.
Because if there are analgesics useful for calming many physical sufferings, in the face of such a devastating loss, everyone is forced to find an intimate and personal remedy to quell the spasms of torment they feel.
And Gino Cecchettin, right from the start, in the clarity gained from another, recent, pain, for the death of his wife, he demonstrated that he had found his pain relief in the desire to spend himself publicly to help change that culture of possession and sick love that turned into Giulia’s annihilation at the hands of the boy who thought he loved her. What stood out in the interview was the ability of a father to channel – into vital energy – feelings that are thought to be common in the stereotype of the imagination of pain, but which evidently do not belong to everyone.
In recent weeks, the mass media have taken over Giulia’s story in the name of freedom of the press, popular comments by virtue of public sentiment, political opinions on an institutional basis, but criticizing Giulio Cecchettin, for his determination to carry on, in his daughter’s name, a battle that can be useful to everyone, represents the denial of the true belonging of pain and the possibility of bearing witness to an experience that is not only that of a father but also of a man. The sobriety, the continence, the simplicity with which Giulia’s father wanted to outline what would be his public path born from a private tragedy, also tell of an intimate elaboration that it led him not only to overturn conventions and beliefs, but to confront his singular masculine being, to transform it into general and plural.

The force of Giulia’s tragedy, as we know, has forced the institutions to become aware of the need for cultural education which, unfortunately, politics thinks of maneuvering according to its own orientation. So Valditara, in less than 24 hours, revoked the appointments that she had just advertised of the guarantors for the project on affective education at school. Here, Mr. Minister, perhaps, if you can, in his choices, leave aside political pressure and look at the experience of those who have suffered.